Take Your Own Advice: Learn to Trust Your Inner Voice and Start Helping Yourself (Paperback)
For those who are givers, carers, and empaths, a guide to focusing that energy on yourself—even if that feels frightening, from popular LGBTQ+ activist and advocate Jeffrey Marsh.
Like many of us, Jeffrey Marsh was conditioned to have an outward focus—to give to others, to be a good listener, and to be the one who gave the best advice. In Marsh’s case, it was a method of survival. Growing up genderfluid in an unaccepting family, Marsh did everything they could to meet the needs of others and not have needs of their own. And ultimately, this meant Marsh put themself in the backseat of their own life.
In this heartfelt and sincere book, Marsh shares their story and the lessons they learned on the path back to themselves. Whether you’re a survivor of abuse and trauma like Marsh or you’ve passively accepted that your worth ought to be defined by your usefulness to others, Take Your Own Advice will give you the confidence to lead your life on your terms, and to prioritize what’s important: you.
It’s time that you learn to put yourself first, to take care of yourself, and to ask others to listen to you for a change. You do give the best advice, after all!
About the Author
Jeffrey Marsh is one of the world’s foremost commentators on nonbinary identity and activism in America, with a message of positivity and inclusion and a deep knowledge of queer issues and history. Marsh has reported on LGBTQ+ topics for Time, Variety, Dutch National News channel RTL-TV, Newsmax TV, and the BBC. Marsh was also a cultural consultant on nonbinary identity for the Elizabeth Warren campaign, New York University, the office of Chirlane McCray (New York City’s first lady), GLAAD, MTV, Condé Nast’s Them, and Teen Vogue. Their spiritual and inclusive messages have received more than 1 billion views on social media.
"It doesn’t cost us anything to let others be freely themselves, rather it is an invitation to us all to live more fully. Jeffrey is a light that inspires inclusion and freedom to be…just as we are."
—Hilaria Baldwin, actress and entrepreneur, co-founder of Yoga Vida, and author of The Living Clearly Method
"I wish I had been friends with Jeffrey when they were growing up to give their beautiful soul a confidant. Their story feels universal, and deeply personal. Take Your Own Advice should be required reading for anyone who learned to sacrifice their own happiness to keep others happy."
—Meredith Salenger, actress and activist
"At a time when 'self-care' can mean many things, Jeffrey Marsh's heartfelt memoir is a guide to self-love for the everyperson. And their story — one powered by audacity, truth and kindness — empowers us to be just as as assured and authentic as we are."
—Tre'vell Anderson, author of We See Each Other: A Black, Trans Journey Through TV and Film
“Jeffrey Marsh went deep into the heart of their difficult childhood and they have emerged with a book of joy and triumph. Every activist needs to read this. If you give and give and can’t see the light sometimes, let Jeffrey comfort you, and inspire you to Take Your Own Advice.”
—Alyssa Milano, actress, activist, and author of Sorry Not Sorry
"Jeffrey Marsh’s moving memoir takes a rough childhood and spins it into self-worth and magic. Jeffrey has given the world a treasure of a book filled with kindness, insight, and love.”
—Busy Phillips, actress and activist, and author of This Will Only Hurt a Little
"A brilliant, engaging story that lovingly invites you to rediscover your value... For Jeffrey, despite a painful past, self-determination and kindness triumph."
—Alexandra Billings, actress and LGBTQ activist, and author of This Time for Me
“The only thing more beautiful than Jeffrey's story is Jeffrey themself. They are the nonbinary vision, the glorious gender nonconforming voice, that this broken world needs right now. Take my advice: buy this book and give it to everyone you love."
—Jacob Tobia, bestselling author of Sissy